The idea of having a therapist has often been thought of as for “others”. It has been considered that those who are ‘crazy’ or ‘weak’ or ‘less than’ are the ones who need to see a counselor. It’s not for the ‘average’ person. Perhaps you have thought to yourself: Surely, I’m not that mentally off to need a therapist!
In order to combat this taboo and still recognize that sometimes people need a bit of help, the concept of “life coaching” came into the scene. Then, life coaches started proliferating to the point that just about anyone with a few hours of training can call themselves one. Now, it’s becoming nearly as taboo to have a life coach as it is to have a therapist, but for different reasons.
Well…just like any profession there are good ways and not-so-ideal ways of promoting it. What is important to do is to have a clear understanding of what it means to have a coach and consider the real benefits and reasons for getting one.
Consider this: Have you thought about hiring a personal trainer? Do you attend a yoga or some kind of exercise class? Why? Aside from perhaps wanting a social interaction, the truth is that you could probably create your own work out routine without a trainer or once you had the basics of yoga moves, you could do it in your home. So, why hire or attend a class?
The same answer can be applied to having a coach. Let’s not use “life” with coach anymore.
Consider this: What does a coach of a sports team do? How can these elements be applied to what you might need?
Further consider: Are there areas of your life that are less than ideal? Do you find yourself feeling like there is more for you, but you just don’t know what or how to obtain it? Would you like someone to help you find a better way?
The answers to these questions are what a coach can do for you. Sometimes just talking to family and friends is not enough. Coaches (especially co-active ones) are trained especially to provide you with tools and help in getting what you want out of your life. Coaches are available to support you and help you to achieve what is perceived as impossible. Coaches want you to find your inner you and to develop a way of life that focuses on your values and takes pride in who you are. With their help to re-learning how to be who you are, you will find everything is possible.
So, maybe it is time to shake off those taboos and thoughts that you aren’t the type to need help. We all need help, it just a matter of how we understand what that means. :D
-The Universal Asian